STRIVING & SUPERIORTY COMPLEX

We all wish to overcome difficulties, failures, disappointments, and many other traumas in the journey of life.

in order to overcome we search for that shining road that will be the appropriate exit for our soul injuries or our inferiority no matter what it is; as long as the person considers it as inferiority.
Actually maybe we have the predisposition to have exits in order to win ourselves instead of turning to be un living pictures


One of hundred ideas psychologists had discussed, but the fact they were not a pioneer in discussing such ideas, maybe pioneer in how they wrote it and brought it to life as the individual theory for Adler.
Yes, we always strive to be better than what we are now; we look for the chances that help us in compensating our inferiority inspite of its kind.

It seems to be as we have the passion to strive in order to keep ourselves alive through all the difficulties in our private lives, that no one can realize that behind the passionate striving there is something
Missing, part of our lives, and souls and we keep on searching to find the lost piece to the completion.

After year, maybe two, or maybe decade, we reach the target then what possibly will happen.

Two possibilities:

We either celebrate our achievement; kill the feeling of inferiority inside us after the long battle with this feeling, inviting all beloved people for what we have reached,

Or we pretend that we are better than everybody so we only see people from a tower no one is ready to be there to celebrate us.
here the striving go to a weird path , and here I must say Adler was and still pioneer in this idea , to say that in this situation we develop superiority complex.
After we know that, we are good and maybe the best in a domain, we only see the people from our own high tower
We cannot even enjoy our achievements.

Example: many PhD, teachers look at their students that they are nothing, so they talk to them as if they have no brains ignoring the fact that they don’t have the experience but they have the brains,
the creativity, but the supporting is missed.

any way if the tacks of the personal dream is humiliating others it returned to be nothing.
Life is not easy; it is a fact
There are dreams that may never be true
However; if the fate gives the dream the chance to be alive, it must hold inside it the love and white intentions other wise we must search for a new concept for the dream that fits with the un known intention.
After all, we will look for a new target to strive for all over again.

WHAT THE HELL.............................

GET OUT OF IT............................
that what my best friend said yesterday, and all that becuase nothing ...
anyway I realize that she can not be a friend and that wht hurts, does she aware of what she is doing ????????????????
GOD will bless her.

OPTIMISSTIC

WOW..........

Mona, that's great but, why?

the question I usually face if I told anyone that I woke up happy and optimisstic this morning.

this reaction leads me to think twice of what kind of perons I am?

or what ppl think of me as a personality?

anyway, this week In spite of stupid, bad, weird, things happend still I woke up really happy.

VALENTINE

Celebration day for the sake of love, almost the whole world celebrates it, in spite of the religious views, good commonality for a universe that gets tired from hatred.
Anyway I just want to mention one little thing about it.
Usually we live in changes from day to day, year to another, although there are many repeated scenes in our lives, such as this day.
It is like a film, documentary, the best actors are who exchange presents, chocolate, candles, ETC.
Also the actors staff consist singles, who live the event hoping to get at least the word of love.
At the end of the day, they comfort themselves by
It’s meant to be for this year.
Finally all actors get the Oscars for their roles.

لا أعرف الشخص الغريب

لا أعرف الشخصَ الغريبَ ولا مآثرهُ
رأيتُ جِنازةً فمشيت خلف النعش،
مثل الآخرين مطأطئ الرأس احتراماً. لم
أجد سبباً لأسأل: مَنْ هُو الشخصُ الغريبُ؟
وأين عاش، وكيف مات فإن أسباب
الوفاة كثيرةٌ من بينها وجع الحياة
سألتُ نفسي: هل يرانا أم يرى
عَدَماً ويأسفُ للنهاية؟ كنت أعلم أنه
لن يفتح النَّعشَ المُغَطَّى بالبنفسج كي
يُودِّعَنا ويشكرنا ويهمسَ بالحقيقة
( ما الحقيقة؟)
رُبَّما هُوَ مثلنا في هذه
الساعات يطوي ظلَّهُ. لكنَّهُ هُوَ وحده
الشخصُ الذي لم يَبْكِ في هذا الصباح،
ولم يَرَ الموت المحلِّقَ فوقنا كالصقر
فاًحياء هم أَبناءُ عَمِّ الموت، والموتى
نيام هادئون وهادئون وهادئون ولم
أَجد سبباً لأسأل: من هو الشخص
الغريب وما اسمه؟ لا برق
يلمع في اسمه والسائرون وراءه
عشرون شخصاً ما عداي ( أنا سواي)
وتُهْتُ في قلبي على باب الكنيسة:
ربما هو كاتبٌ أو عاملٌ أو لاجئٌ
أو سارقٌ، أو قاتلٌ ... لا فرق،
فالموتى سواسِيَةٌ أمام الموت .. لا يتكلمون
وربما لا يحلمون .
وقد تكون جنازةُ الشخصِ الغريب جنازتي
لكنَّ أَمراً ما إلهياً يُؤَجِّلُها
لأسبابٍ عديدةْ
من بينها: خطأ كبير في القصيدة
محمود درويش

لا أعرف الشخص الغريب................

MEMORIES.....

:( Memories..... :)

my question why we spend half of our lives trying to overcome our MEMORIES???
further more selection law starts to take a place, in another words we choose what memories we want to store it in our memory systems, or we just want to transfer it to our unconscious!!!
but even supressed memories will be activated by different situation, either happen to us or others...
are we trying to hide things may present our weakness? or we afraid of our past? maybe this memories disturb our present or blurred our future vision???

but why we can not see the other face??
that behind each one of us is a full system of memories that let us able to deal with new situations....
yes, I still remeber in the age of 11th I was loner but I know this memory helped me to have better relations now...yes I may try to delete it although I know our memories live inside us....
we do not forget....we overcome
we do not bury our memories under the ground .....we try to accept it
at last we can not delete memories becuase our past is part of our inner self...

Missed Title

I do not know what exactly I'm writing but I can identify my feelings...

yes, I know it's wierd.

today I woke up full of positive energy rienforced by my great friend spiecally Emanos.

and nobody ask she can transmitt positivity around.

as long as I felt the postivity, becuase I decided that in morning.

sometimes storm of thoughts hit my brain, but every storm started while I'm walking, then it is right great ideas come only at this time.

fresh air, clear mind, relax moments" no ppl around".

maybe its right, maybe our thoughts frame our paths...

GET LOST

I don't know if we just dislike something we just can not see it's postivity?!

taday I went late to work for different reasons:

1. I'm late
2. Morning sick
3. friday
4. do not know

anyway maybe I don't like to let everyone know that I get sick when i'm stressed, so as a result I'm dizzy.

but before I said we are properties and I'm part, so I heard some wierd comments from authority,

actually it's thier right to say what they said. but in better way or content , treat us as humans...

anyway we live one life so Get LOST............WITH LOVE

STORY OF TIME

Years ago when they first met, she was a beautiful girl,
And he was the fastest boy, they ran in the fields, wrote the dreams, and built innocent hopes.
Time passed by, and they were away from each other's,
She grew up, and he grew up.
Like the previous days he was running, never wait to any one even her,
She was slow, and the only thing she did is searching.
All these years she was looking for him, on the other hand he always tried to avoid her.
She never makes a step farther until now she is looking for him,
Looking for the lost dreams and friends,
She is searching for happiness from her diaries and writings.
She decided to walk today, to figure out where is everybody.
So, she picks up the perfect dress, combs her hair, then draws the perfect smile on her face.
The journey starts with that song she used to hear in the past years,
"Those were the days my friends we thought they would never end, we sing, and dance forever and the day we lived the life we choose we find it never lose when we were young and sure to have our way"
The tears are rolling through her face, with thousands of questions, with no answers until the moment
Roads are too long, but she wants to walk, to find the lost life.
In a sudden, while she's thinking about her life, why everybody change, and why she must bury her dream before it’s born.
She meets him; the smile is drawn in her face, childish looks from her eyes into his.
Where are you? It had been years.
I was, searching for you, our memories returned to be my friend, everybody left, even you.
I did not leave, but you are slow, I tried to be your friend but you rejected this friendship.
I do not wait for anyone; I decided to leave you, when you decided to live in your diaries, memories, and past.
I cannot look behind me, but you must look forward.

:) :(

STORY OF TIME

Free Well

Free well???


“Free will is not the liberty to do whatever one likes, but the power of doing whatever one sees ought to be done, even in the very face of otherwise overwhelming impulse. There lies freedom, indeed.” Unknown

I think this quote must be our slogan, not because it’s creative, but because it’s rooted in our humanistic existence.

But as usual we have to question realities and theories. What crosses my mind is the validity of the social theory in learning for Albert Bandura.

The validity must be questioned due to the mentioned quote; we must not deal with humanistic theories as if it is infinite.

We live inside tides of changes, so we need new revolution in psychology with all the respect to exist ones.

According to this theory we learn by observing others specifically significant ones.
You may ask me why we have to question a theory according to a quote for unknown author?

Well, free will means we have the alternative, but we need the wisdom to choose due to social learning theory we learn this by observing others how they reach their chosen alternative!

But when all our Ideals lost the art of knowing that we have free will even! So how can we learn?

And here we can find the missed chain, in a time we can not see but uncertain leaders, stressed parents, scared youth, and innocent children.

What are we going to observe in such gloomy environment?!
Diminished internal motives for the sake of outsider stimulation to change.
Lost values; rationalizations for our absence, and billion of inferiority and superiority complexes.

Old generation lost the enthusiasm toward change, although they did not transfer the flag of leading to the younger, as a result the status qua is the safer alternative for a community rather than an individual.

At the end the quotes will be only a reality on a paper in someone’s eye in a time context, theories are individual creativity but not standard, So sure without a deep shake for our paralyzed minds the condition will stay still, and nothing will be observed and then to be learned.